The wolf that wins ….

One day, while out on a walk, an old man was talking to his grandson. He explained that within each of us, there were two wolves contesting with one another. One of these wolves thrives on hateful things, is scarred, grim and fierce to look upon, and has a talent for aggression. The other wolf is capable of equal strength; but thrives on good things, is helpful and protective, and has a talent for peace. The grandson mulled this over in his mind, and a short time later, asked his grandfather which wolf it was, that would win this inner contest – to which the grandfather simply replied, “The wolf that wins, is the wolf that we wind up feeding the most.”

I like this story, and it just so happens that I had a grandfather who used to take me for walks, sharing his wisdom with me along the way. What I didn’t understand about this story, until I was older, was the different ways in which the wolves achieved their victories – even if this was plainly evident from the story (some truths reveal themselves to us in their own time, regardless of their simplicity). The destructive wolf seeks to destroy the more peaceful wolf. It seeks to consume him, and it thrives from the peaceful wolf’s agony just as surely as it thrives from its own agony. The peaceful wolf, however, tries to bring peace to its more aggressive counterpart by integrating with it, rather than trying to consume it. The nature of the aggressive wolf in this story does not recognize integration – in peace, it recognizes a threat to its very existence. As such, it is motivated by a selfish fear. The more peaceful wolf is diametrically opposed to its aggressive counterpart, as aggression and hostility are baneful to its existence. But the peaceful wolf is not afraid for itself in this process, it is rather more afraid for its counterpart. The urge to find peace through integration is then motivated by love, and a desire to protect even that part of us that seems to strive against us.

As I said, a simple wisdom, and it stared me in the face for a number of years before I was at a point where I was able to recognize it. With this in mind, it’s not necessarily true that the wolf that wins is the one that is fed the most … when one of the wolves is allowed to win, both win; while when the other wolf is allowed to win, both lose.


6 responses to “The wolf that wins ….

  1. What an inspiration. It is so true. People often ask me why I’m always so positive. The thought of being constantly negative, drains me. Yes, things don’t always work out the way I would like but that’s not a bad thing. It teaches me to be mindful of the moment. If I give my best, consider others, try my hardest, smile and offer insight and inspiration, I am happy. A great post.

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    • I really like your way of looking at things … especially your turning potential disappointment into a learning opportunity / reminder to be mindful of the moment. Have you always looked at things this way? If not, what changed your perspective?

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      • To a degree, I think I’ve always been that way. However, certain life events changed my outlook for the better. Something I may write about at some stage but it will require me to open up old wounds and that will need a quiet time, maybe when the first snows arrive.

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      • I fully understand – prying was not my intention, but I would still happily read your story when you feel ready to write / publish it to the Internet :-)

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      • And prying is not how it was received. It’s Monday and there’s a whole week of wonder ahead.


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